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Brenda Horrigan's avatar

I feel the first year in any new location is tough at any age but over time the idea of starting all over again is even more daunting. What a leap you made--inspiring! So so grateful to Bruce for encouraging you to be here. Can't imagine the Washashores, this Substack, or MV without you, Kate!

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you, Brenda! The feeling is warmly mutual. (Sorry I didn't see your comment until today.)

Jan Brogan's avatar

Kate: We are so lucky you made the move!

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you, Jan! A tardy reply to your much appreciated comment.

Thomas Dresser's avatar

Welcome, Kate.

Your journey sounds so familiar. We are all washashores, one way or another. I still feel like a newbie, yet I’ve been on Island 30 years. It keeps one fresh, open to new ideas.

As we age, we naturally become more settled in our ways. But the Vineyard grows on you, and will soon feel very much like home, settled and comfortable.

You have found a very encouraging group, and I wish you the best in your new home.

Tom Dresser

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you very much for your kind and encouraging words, Tom!

Kim Leaird's avatar

Glad you're here, Kate! I think your story must be familiar to every washashore, I know it is to me. I moved here when my boys were just 8 and it took some time to find our way and to feel connected to the greater island. Now that they're turning 21, I'm so happy to be a part of this writing posse too.

Kate Altman's avatar

Thanks, Kim! So glad you’re a Washashore, too!

Susie Middleton's avatar

A belated welcome from one washashore to another.

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you, Susie!

Terri Potts-Chattaway's avatar

We moved twenty times before I was 17. I finally settled in the LA area long enough to raise my kids in one place. But it was when I came to visit this beautiful island, that I felt like I came home. Like you, I found it difficult to feel connected to the community. Until I was invited to join the Washashores Writing Collective. I am so grateful for you and all the wonderful and talented ladies of the Washashores that have become my friends. We found our tribe.

Kate Altman's avatar

Indeed, we did. I didn't know your back story, Terri, but glad to know it now. So happy we landed, and connected.

Burn Brightly's avatar

There’s a gem of a line in this that made me smile! What a treat to read!

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you, Carolyn!

Morgen Schroeder, MV Cheesery's avatar

Love it! I am a washashore too, but joke that I have two “anchor babies”. Both my kids are born on MV!

Fran Schumer's avatar

Another seamless beauty. Thanks, Kate.

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you so much, Fran! I appreciate your lovely compliment. Sorry I didn't see it until today, nearly 3 weeks later.

Nancy Kramer's avatar

A lovely reflection Kate! Thank you for sharing this in such an honest, vulnerable way!

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you, Nancy! I so appreciate your kind comment!

Tracey Braun's avatar

Such a universal experience- except for those are born, live, and die in the same place, but think of how much of life they miss out on!

Kate Altman's avatar

Indeed! There are all kinds of ways to be in the world; might as well embrace the life you've got!

Anne Manning's avatar

What a heart-warming story Kate. Thank you.

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you so much, Anne!

Elisa M. Speranza's avatar

What a lovely reflection, Kate. It reminded me of how bereft I felt when I moved to New Orleans at 41 — thrilled and excited for a new adventure, but suddenly aware that my entire network of friends and family was 1,500 miles away. It took a while, but it's been so gratifying to find my people, there and now here on the island where I have decades of fond memories, and a whole new community of writers. So glad you're among them. Here's to friends, old and new!

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you, Elisa! Moving from near or far is hard, indeed. Massachusetts to NOLA is a big cultural shift, so extra hard, as was moving to NY from LA. It seemed like it would be easy, bc I was, like you, thrilled and excited, but it was hard (even as a 30-something). Moving from NY to MV at a much later stage of life presented different challenges, for sure. But I wouldn't go back on any of it. Yes, here's to friends, old and new!

Candidly Midlife's avatar

Started over in a new town is never easy but I’m so glad you found your posse. It may take time but I always feel that in due time the right friendship will connect :)

Kate Altman's avatar

Thank you! I'm feeling quite positive :)